If you’re wondering how to get over performance anxiety, then you’ve come to the right place. Erectile dysfunction was the bane of my existence and it haunted me every time I wanted to get intimate with someone. I’m sure you know exactly how I feel. You can’t get an erection and the rest of your night is just filled with humiliation and embarrassment; all while she’s frustrated, upset, and left unsatisfied because of your impotence.

If you’re ready to get over your crippling erectile dysfunction, here are a few tips of many for you to try out:

• 1. Focus: Keep your mind on the goal and don’t focus on how nervous you are or how you may not be able to get it up.
• 2. Communicate: Communication is a vital tool in the relationship arsenal. The more you and your partner talk, the more you two will develop a connection, increasing your comfort (vital!) with the person. Let them know the reason you can’t get hard isn’t because you don’t like them, but because you’re nervous.
• 3. Masturbate Less: This helps keep your sex drive up, thus making you more easily aroused. If you’re a frequent masturbator, consider cutting your sessions by 75%. Or even stop all together.
• 4. Relax: Try your hardest to consciously relax. I’ve noticed that before having sex, when my heart is racing and my body is pumping adrenaline, my muscles are very tensed up. Make your body more limp and take slower, deeper breaths. It’ll help mellow you out.